Monday, June 18, 2018

The Virtues Series: Episode 14 "The Price of Goodness"

"So Daddy can I keep the change?" Asked Fatima, her eyes beaming with anticipation.

"Why?" Her father asked in response, looking distracted as he searched for more kpomo in his vegetable soup. He had a slight smile from the corner of his face, as he already knew what her response would be.

She was his daughter, through and through. She had taken after him so much so that whenever he was with her, it felt like he was with a younger version of himself. Her curiosity, sharpness & courage, all reminded him of his own self, except that he wanted her to be so much better.

He had always told himself that he would take every chance to help her become a better person than he ever was. To teach her from what he knew of life, virtues, & wisdom. To share from his experiences & mistakes, to give her the priceless gift of beneficial knowledge, as every father should, and here just in this brief moment it seemed to him that yet another opportunity has come.

"For being honest..." She answered, nodding her head as if acknowledging to herself that she did the right thing.

"Well....weren't you supposed to be honest?" Her father said, now looking up at her trying to keep a straight face.

"Umm...I was...."

"So why should I reward you then?"

She was given some money to buy a textbook for her younger sister at school, & it turned out that she got it at a lower price than he assumed. Her father would not have known if she had kept the change unless he went all the way to the school shop to ask which was unlikely. He wasnt expecting any change but still she decided to let him know.

She expected that her honesty would impress him and he would ask her to keep the change as he normally did when he even knew & was expecting to get change from an errand.

What she didn't know was that he had an even better gift for her today, more valuable than the change, a gift of the advice he was about to give.

"Honesty is a part of good character yes or no?" He continued.

"Yes..."

"Just like kindness, generosity, respect, justice & humility...

These are virtues we have been commanded to have by our Lord and they make us good people...

When you are kind to someone, e.g you help an old woman on the street, do you expect her to reward you?"

"No..."

"How about when you give some money to the poor? Your reward can only from who?"

"Allaah..."

"Perfect...So, this applies to every other kind of good. Whether it is being truthful, being fair, showing love, helping others, we must never expect our reward from people because these are what our Lord has commanded us to do and our reward is with Him. He brought us into this world, He enjoined us to be good & avoid doing bad, everything we do should be for Him, seeking His face, His pleasure & mercy.

Once we start expecting people to acknowledge and reward us for doing the right thing, the things we are supposed to do, then it becomes like we are forfeiting the reward of Allah for the reward of the people. It's like saying you would take a drop of water instead of the ocean.

People can never be able to reward you fully for any good you have done so never look towards them. If you get a reward from the people then see it only as an extension of the generosity of Allah but that should not be your goal or motivator.

As you grow, you'll realize there'll be many times you will do good and not even get gratitude talk little of a reward. You will help some people and they will not appreciate it in any way. You will give and may even get insults in return. All these are possible, plus even more. So If you did all good for the people then you will surely stop doing good someday. But if it is for Allah, then He is Perfect, Ever-appreciative, All-capable of rewarding you in the best & most beautiful way. May He grant us the ability to do good only for His sake and reward us with Jannah Firdaus."

"Aameen.." said Fatima, head slighted, looking thoughtfully & admiringly at her father.

"Alhamdulillaah for Islam..."

"Alhamdulillaah" her father replied, feeling satisfied and grateful that she understood the depth of his message.

"So Daddy where should I keep it for you?" She asked, since he still had some food to finish.

"Uhh...how about inside that pink purse on the center table" he said, winking at his daughter.

"Haa! That's my purse daddy!" She smiled widely at him. she knew what he meant, her funny kind man.

"Thank you so much Daddy, JazakAllahu khairan"

"Wa anti fa Jazakillahu khairan my princess" He replied, licking his fingers after wiping his plate clean. "And Alhamdulillaah for this delicious meal by your mother" 

The Virtues Series: Episode 13

'Alright, I'll see you all next week' their teacher said, as they all packed up their books calling it a day.

Aisha's mother had arrived 10 minutes earlier & had decided to wait for her at the hall way She was seated on the bench opposite their classroom door, so she got to hear when the class was dismissed.

She stood up & prepared a bright smile as she keenly looked out for her daughter.

'Assalamu Alaikum sweetheart' 'wa Alaikumussalaam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuhu Umma!' Beamed Aisha in response as she hastened to hug her mother.

'I hope you had a splendid day' Her mother asked. 'Yes umma, Alhamdulillaah!' Aisha replied while they both walked down the hall towards the parking lot.

'I couldn't help but overhear your teacher asking for a Volunteer to represent your school & give a speech at the upcoming Youth Development Summit'
'Yes umma, its coming up next week in sha Allaah, we're all invited but one person gets to speak in front of all those thousands of people on any relevant topic regarding challenges facing the youth of today'

'That's superb, but why didn't you offer to volunteer?'

'Me? Ummaa, umm...I don't knowww, I mean, what do I know, plus, there are lots of others better than me, & I didn't want to seem like I was being proud choosing myself to give the speech, was hoping my teacher would choose me on his own or something, thought i should be modest..'

'hmm, may Allah bless you Aisha. But you have misunderstood what it means to be modest and what it means to be proud. You for one, are gifted by Allah with such eloquence & wisdom & this is an area you have always been passionate about, sharing your knowledge & ideas with the world. It has always been your dream to pass inspiring messages to the world and be a part of it's betterment, so why would you let such a golden opportunity pass you by?

My darling It is far from modesty to refuse to utilize the gifts you have been granted by Allah, & it is far from pride to acknowledge that you have certain skills and to use them to benefit yourself and others, it is infact a form of showing gratitude for that gift!

Pride is looking down on others and thinking you are better off because of the gifts you have which they don't have, forgetting that everyone is gifted in their own way. And modesty is the exact opposite of this, not denying your blessings altogether.

And about whether or not there is someone better than you at this, perhaps there is, or about how you may not do it well enough, you wouldn't know until you try. And if you make mistakes you learn from them, if you find others who are better, you learn from them too. But you must never use others as yardsticks to measure your own value or growth. Ramember what I said about everyone being gifted differently? Always remember that & feel grateful.

So whether it is solving math problems, giving speeches, writing, sewing, cooking, coordinating, you name it, if you have the ability, go for it!

And one more thing, as Muslims we must always remember that being ambassadors of Islam requires us to strive towards excellence in everything we do. Let your voice be heard, as a voice that speaks truth & wisdom, let your actions be virtuous & exemplary. Let us be upright & bold in striving for the best in this life & the next so that we are walking messages to others, attracting them towards to this beautiful way of living which is Islam.

So give me your word that you will never let an opportunity like this pass you by?

'In sha Allah I wouldn't umma' smiling sincerely at her mother.

'BarakAllahu feeki my darling' umm Aisha said as she smiled right back!

The Virtues Series: Episode 12 "The Mark of True Strength"

"How can I show you..." she began,
"The extent of admiration that I have for you my dear daughter...

You have certainly surpassed me in strength and courage"

"Oh maama, what are you saying..." her daughter replied.

"How can i be called strong when I cry over the littlest things...

Or courageous, when I can barely even mingle freely with my peers..."

"Let me tell you my dear, there are far better yardsticks to measure strength & courage than those..."

"You are strong because you allow yourself to feel everything...yet you also forgive easily...

You are strong because you have mastered the art of controlling your anger

You are strong because you still spread love and kindness in spite of the hate that has been shown to you by others

You are strong because you've carried not just your burden but the burden of others and extended your helping hand where you could

And you think your shyness is what makes you devoid of courage?

Rather, it is your courage that makes you able to withhold yourself from engaging in vain talk and giving in to peer pressure. At the risk of being the odd one out, you are courageous enough to remain silent about matters that do not concern you. At the risk of being pushed out, you are courageous enough to stick to your values and the teachings of your Deen, you have embodied the truth that you know and live by against the norms of society, stuck to modesty and honor, now if these aren't acts of courage, tell me what could possibly be?

May Allah increase our understanding and grant us all sincerity and steadfastness and make us among the recipients of His mercy. Aameen